How to Mother a New Mother
File this under things I wish I would have done.
File this under things I wish I would have done.
Mothering an infant is physical. It’s primarily, almost exclusively, an effort of the body.
From my main blog - how I’ve survived as a working breastfeeding mama for 7 months (and counting).
Elizabeth S. Spelke studies infants and toddlers to understand how the brain works by determining what, if anything, humans are born knowing.
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Infant brain development is fascinating!
My husband and I took our daughter to a local “green babies” expo. According to the advertisement, it is “An Earth-friendly family festival creating awareness about cloth-diapering and green parenting.” The event was targeted toward parents of small children and expectant parents, as it was one of the Great Cloth Diaper Change locations.
When we arrived at the event, every family was given a door bag…sponsored by Enfamil. In each bag, was a huge sample of newborn formula, as well as a secondary sample hidden in another bag. The bags were given away by Enfamil reps. The rep pointed out the formula to me and encouraged me to take it for myself (even though my 16 pound, six-month old baby is no newborn) or to give it to a friend. I handed back the huge formula sample and politely said that I didn’t need it. Later, I opened the bag and founded the hidden secondary sample.
It’s a day later and I am still stewing about this damn formula giveaway.
I know that many people choose to or need to use formula and that is a valid choice for their families and situations. But I hate how many places give away formula to new and expectant moms, especially places that you don’t expect - like green parenting fairs, my own gynecologist’s office, and even in my mail. To me, it’s incredibly wasteful. I have a huge bag of formula that I will never use, which I plan to turn in to a food shelf. But it’s also a lot of strong-arming on the part of the formula companies. I’ve never been marketed to this aggressively for one food product.
I think of myself as very lucky for having a complication-free pregnancy and an easy, natural birth. But I also know that my outcome was based on a lot of my own research and finding a team who would help me achieve my goals. This post really illustrates the importance of self-advocacy in our health care, especially in pregnancy and birth.
My six month letter to my daughter, from the main blog.
In other news, I’ve kept a baby alive and healthy for six months. How did that happen?
Of the doula-supported families, 93% attempted breastfeeding and 70% were still exclusively breastfeeding after six weeks. The figures are significantly higher than the latest national figures from the Department of Health, which show only 74.1% of new mums attempt breastfeeding, and just 47 per cent are still exclusively breastfeeding at six weeks.
[From a U.K. Survey]
Far from Faddish: Doula Survey Shows Dramatic Decrease in Interventions
My doula was *so* worth the expense. Doulas Rock!
Bags of chips can be a toy, for one.
I just flew in from Virginia, and boy is my vagina tired! From the involuntary ultrasound wanding — AM I RIGHT, LADIES? (Beat.) And by the way, why do they call it a ‘wand’? Where are we — Hogwarts? The only thing magically disappearing was my dignity and privacy, BOOM!!!
…What’s the difference between a fertilized egg; a corporation; and a woman? (Beat.) One of them isn’t considered a person in Oklahoma! BOOM!!!
(via wilwheaton)